At this age, marital loyalty is plummeting, extra-marital betrayal and I do not know since when has become a hot topic and polls. So, how men view their own "derailment" of this behavior? Let us listen to those extra-marital betrayal of the men their thoughts now!
For most men, extramarital affairs, said little guilt or remorse

"I got married 35 years. I do not want any change - but our sex life to be improved. According to the present We had a very good standard. I have several extra-marital sexual experience, without the knowledge of his wife. I understand that nothing bad impact, but also know that some good results - every time the experience will teach me some 'new' things, I use at home. "

"Because I love, strong sex life and relationships with peers and get married. And my wife having sex is good, but I like the epistemic. I do not like monogamy, it is too limited and too unilateral a. Extra-marital affairs impact on me only the separation of grief, has never affected the marriage, because I will never be stupid enough to tell my wife. "

"I got married nearly 20 years. As the years passed, more and more happy sex life. I have had extramarital affairs, without the knowledge of my wife. I plunge, the first girl in love with impunity. This experience let me know , if not mind control the emotion, the result would look like, Since then I have not the same. I do not know this love What is the impact on the marriage, I never thought about the relationship between me and my wife and I and the girls What relevance relations. "
Most men said that extramarital affairs have good impact on their
"In my first marriage I did have extramarital sex. My wife is innocent. Great influence on me, no effect on the marriage."

"I have been involved in extramarital affair 20 years. Many revel in, some are long-term relationships, maintain 3 to 4 years. My wife did not know, now I have two affair, so very nice to me."
Some people said that extramarital affairs well, because it is self-enhancement:
"It would be very wonderful experience and enhance the self."
"I was having an affair. They almost destroyed my self from the emotional state of depression pulled. It does not affect my marriage."
"My wife affair without the knowledge, I have a good effect on - a good change, and strengthened my self-esteem, because I am very attractive."

"For two years I did not live with his wife, and had an affair, and I enjoy it. It makes me feel very sexy, a pretty good, a few years later, I told my wife this matter, she thinks that my frank is a malicious act, and that I should not tell her. but I really do not think having an affair on our relationship or marriage have a significant impact. "

"About four years ago, I found myself dissatisfied with sexual life than before, when the opportunity appeared affair. This relationship to maintain two or three months, the frequency is twice a week see the face. My wife has never been found, from the psychological level, which greatly inspired me, let me sparkle. Now I was satisfied in sex, but will still feel the occasional romantic look is very satisfied, but no one was hurt in the case. "
Extramarital affairs to help them retain or develop a more independent self-

"Monogamy is a problem. Now I come to believe, in any case for me, there must be some room for extra-marital affairs. Extramarital contacts to help me better understand myself to prove myself in the end is kind of a person, know their new level. "
"The current experience very good to me - let me see that he is very sexy and sentimental, this is not my marriage, and some experience."
"I got married 6 years been taught since childhood to accept almost completely on the concept of trust and commitment, but I like to have several marriages.

Last 3 years I had 3 affairs, those relationships are not fully open is not entirely a secret, but some things did not respond, not to mention many's Biography. They do not improve my marriage, because they are not part of marriage. But they improve my situation, cultivated my independent personality and self-esteem. Although I have always loved his wife, but our sex life scarred, and often move to other areas. I do not know these relationships more and more open to express my marriage trend is becoming more open, or it is dead. "

"It's hard which choice to lead a life member of the conservative, or free. I do not care how others look at me. At present, my wife and I live a stable, respectable life, but has a long-term extramarital affairs to I enjoyed another successful life ('real' to me?). I know this is fraud, but I do not realize how Debu do their faithful. "
Some people simply enjoy the extra-marital affairs
"4 and a half years of marriage. Marriage made by the very nature of the restrictions. I had two affairs, satisfactory and exciting at the same time get a great feeling of satisfaction. Wife are unaware of."
"I am happy to get what I want outside the home, and enjoy the taste of the kind of excitement and adventure."
"Extra-marital affairs affect on me was to re-assert themselves, to restore youthful vigor and excitement."
A handful of people that guilt
"I love my marriage. I have extra-marital affairs, but rarely. Outside of the sex will bring a very strong sense of guilt, not likely to enhance the marriage relationship."
"The current impact of an affair on my guilt, which is the reason why we have a showdown."
"I cheat my wife, I feel guilty - they mean low-level."

"I think the affair would be suspected, but could not confirm. I feel guilty, and half because I want to be honest with yourself, so ended the marriage. No matter how, before the start of the affair, our marriage has been shaken."

"Right now I and second wife, married for 3 years. I like to get married. We closely tied, no more than the home warmer place. But on the outside, without the knowledge of his wife, I did have sexual relations with another woman. I feel ugly, and it almost destroyed my marriage, because my wife felt. "

"I have concealed from his wife's extra-marital sexual experience, I feel sorry for her. I feel strong regret, remorse endless, but still go on ... ... always afraid to get caught, lose everything (which I deserved). Unless bad luck the lead, I am very cautious and not let this interfere with my marriage. and I must admit that sometimes, after a while precarious, through an affair with another woman, I was able to restore ties of marriage - - There is no doubt out of guilt. This makes me feel a little debt to repay, I always sympathize with her and wanted to sincerely care for her. all of these guilt complex response, let me rationalize their excursion. "
For some people, guilt is only temporary
"At first, I hate myself, and then I got used to it, and love."
"I have had a very casual, no emotion involved in extramarital sex, my wife did not know. A few days later I feel sad, but then no longer feel comfortable."
Some people tried to extramarital sex, but did not like:
"I do not care about the same time have a lot, I just find myself unable to handle them."
"I was lying in bed with another woman, think of my wife, how deep the damage, so I cried to sleep. And then go home - it is my place."
"In a recent analysis, I have determined, extra-marital affairs are boring, but his wife or partner is not coincidental fair."

"Married for over 30 years. The experience of having an affair, I have twice, once in my first marriage degree, one in the second marriage. Of respect, love two very short - perhaps only 3 to 6 times of exposure. brought me bad results, I am full of guilt, that he is a fool bully on the 1st. I do not for extra-marital affairs. "
"Only once an affair is adultery or experience - with a friend's wife. I feel that moral degradation."

"I prefer high quality, meaningful monogamous relationship. I have a few affairs, but because it is having an affair outside of marriage, they always cast a shadow, which makes emotional and physical tired."

"I am now racking their brains wondering whether I can really be content with the test and the value of monogamy. Frankly, I think I may be more inclined to this, rather than romantic love everywhere. The latter tend to be superficial and difficult to maintain . However, monogamous relationship, if rooted in the growth of each other, share and support each other, it will certainly increase the depth of an individual's life and meaning. at least this is my own life experience to the beginning. "

Aside morality, honor and ethics, etc. These constraints, everyone will feel subconscious need a lover, however, is having an affair as long as there exists more or less on the feelings of betrayal, is having an affair would hurt the other party, therefore, We call the force of love and marriage, loyalty.

Who said that "consciousness worth a pound?"

Background: "Seeking Truth" magazine recently published an article to remind the leadership cadres, "perverting the official mental imbalance will." The article said "faith is the most deadly landslides landslide."

Shan Yan Changjiang Daily published the article: I believe the downfall of corrupt officials have a process, in addition to "absolute power corrupts absolutely" (this iron rule by the appointment procedure "not illegal" but be exposed many buying Selling in the case time and again to prove), in addition to the collapse of belief (assuming he had joined the party official, or when there is faith), but the "mental imbalance" that one run, "some of the community to get rich than poor people, the total feel that they lose, does not pay "is only one of the reasons. For example, CEOs in state-owned enterprises emerged a few years ago the so-called "59-year-old phenomenon", such as when the reservoir Hongtashan group health, he felt that corruption is indeed made great contributions to the country, while the treatment gap after retirement too. This is fundamentally a problem of definition of property rights is also a state-owned investment manager evaluation. Now, some state-owned enterprises is high executive pay, but there is corruption, which is a fiduciary duty does not sound problem. Notice, there is no limit to human greed, mental no "imbalance" will make money for. Many cases show that some cadres are promoted hopeless, that the organization is not fair to him, it turned to fishing at sight. This "mental imbalance" and the shortcomings of our system, the selection of cadres. Needless to say, democratic elections and the mechanism of fair competition in some places just a slogan, the very existence of relations of personal dependence; Otherwise, it will not happen Buying and selling of Woan so many major cases. In short, I felt only with a conviction slide shows from the moral corruption of the superficial level, the results can not explain the deep social and political dimensions of reason. I ask: When the Chinese Communist Party stopped talking on the party members and cadres, "the people" of faith? Far not that many do not say, from the "three stresses" to the "Eight Honors and Eight Shames" Party with the cadre of total faith and moral education in practice, right?

Xiao Jiang Random Thoughts: is not that faith and consciousness is not important, but that is difficult to assess beliefs and consciousness. Because people across belly, mouth, said to have faith and tell the consciousness, does not prove that some people will match words with deeds. "How to", "How sure what" already talked too much, this has long been a number of positive preaching, "Oil Stick" fully digested, and by "double-dealing," the habit of ear and out the -
Some shouted anti-corruption official on stage, the audience large money-making; out and said some officials talk about party spirit and principle, but secretly cronyism, mistress sitting Huai; everyone will talk about major principles outdo the "insiders itinerant rules "; was even said to myself," consciousness worth a pound? " Yes, in this lust, temptations, faith lost, more hopes on the balance of powers of the times, it is hard to believe that consciousness can "solve everything." We do see all kinds of systems and regulations are "constantly improving." The question is, "The law alone is not enough," the left hand control monitoring mode, leading the final say in the promotion within the system routines for monitoring leading cadres, especially to curb "circle of corruption" is often weak effect. I am afraid, only let the people have more right to speak, to continuously improve the level of democracy and the elected, will make a real fear of some officials who should fear, rationalize and restrict the power granted to the original relationship. Which is still in the progressive trend ... ...
If the power used to bring people Dang Houshua ... ...

Background: The rising price of oil in the end up or not "hesitate" more than a month after the end of an open question. National Development and Reform Commission announced that, since starting at 0:00 on the on June 1 will be gasoline and diesel prices were increased by 400 yuan per ton.

Wang Shichuan Yanzhao Metropolis Daily published the article: The Curse of the occasion, said rising oil prices, journalists seek confirmation from the Development and Reform Commission officials, and the answer is clear that the authorities would not say the recent oil price increases. However, apart from these there are still some doubts, until the relevant officials once again come out "to appease." According to reports, the National Energy Research Institute researcher, said Zhou Dadi, the domestic oil price adjustment will not be too frequent price adjustment taken into account according to the macroeconomic, domestic oil prices will not be a simple reference to 22 working days. Sinopec system, a person even explicitly told reporters that the NDRC did not say more than a certain price must be rising prices, it is just a prerequisite, may consider price hike does not necessarily mean prices. In this situation, the prices of the wind finally corpuscles, and owners are finally able to sleep a sense of wholeness. In this calm and collected another vivid performances, the audience fooled, deceived the owner. Half-truths, falsehoods, real ones, stealing a march, bumbling, seeming earnest, quietly, surprise, this means nothing to the Thirty-Six Ancient strange enough. This is the inadvertent errors or premeditated under the sun, the answer of course is self-evident. Once power is gone back, or even lie, the people must know the truth, the public must know the truth of the feeling of being fooled. May 31 evening, I know that when oil prices are playing a message, the taxi driver picked up a phone, the phone, the driver shouted: though not up yet? Ye has risen? Bluff is not it? I knew I would fill up the ... ... In fact, oil prices can not rise, but the rise also need a proper way. First, do not follow or not follow up, can not be selective blindness, hurried up when international oil prices, international oil price slump has turned a blind eye; the other, can not be denied the rumor the way oil prices up, if you want to adjust the price of oil on in accordance with the established regulations to adjust, not the king say so outright, but denied even clearly premeditated prices prices, this approach is to take public opinion Dang Houshua. NDRC is the institutional reform have been the leading, most in need of reform is that it, lead it to engage in institutional reform, how about this possible? Go back on the credibility of the government departments must overdraft aroused public resentment and reverse psychology, this department does, "the need to reform" the.

Xiao Jiang Random Thoughts: When the "rumors" turns out to be telling the truth, when the "release authority" and "rumor" it was proved to be lies, the so-called "authority" and was pumping his own resounding slap in the face of a record. The public is "authority" Dang Houshua, this feeling of being fooled more directly undermine the credibility of the administration. In fact, the "authority" to go back no longer uncommon. Two years ago, A-share market also occurred "5? 30 incident." At that time, the Ministry of Finance who just "rumor" that stamp duty will not rise. But then, suddenly after one week the Ministry of Finance announced a substantial increase in stamp duty rates. As the government credibility with the public, A-share market crash crazy ... ... this thing will not stop the pernicious influence of "poor communication", "work mistakes" as simple, as tax rates and the price is directly related to gold buyers and sellers and financial silver, and inevitably will make public the government departments and interest groups through a pair of pants, forced overtaxing the impression. This case, the administrators say, "Do not listen to rumors," "to prevent incitement to confuse people with ulterior motives", difficult to justify, and have actually looked a little pale. More serious consequence is that the executive branch in the future release true information, it may encounter the public paranoia, this is "crying wolf" is the same reason. June 1, "Chongqing Evening News" also reported that "bounce back non-payment for families with children or can not pay the fine, relatives will be the freezing of bank deposits, plan to go directly to" the rumors Victorious in the town of Fuling District of Chongqing spread. From 26 May onwards, the town of Chongqing Rural Commercial Bank has been run three savings point. The Government has repeatedly rumor, run it subsided. This is a true rumor. However, people should believe it, do not believe its free, already out the contrast of the government mistrust. Distrust of the government from where? All problems can be attributed to "the people know the truth?" Leaders have the final say, interference in the Judiciary, the public against officials Nanshang Nan, petition is trouble-making people, knocked out teeth to stomach the pharyngeal ... ... What kind are these?

1, tap water
It was used up in the morning turn on the tap, take a glass of tap water to drink, this is not right. Night out in the water taps and water is static, these metal wall and the tap water and metal will have the hydration reaction chamber to form a metal contaminated water, and microbial residues in tap water will breed together, this water contains a lot of harmful substances, it may hide a threat to human health of acute respiratory disease bacteria - Legionella.
Therefore, the early morning unscrew the tap, the initial outflow of water is not drinking stagnant water, so those of you who have this habit immediately corrected, so as not to damage their health.
2, for a long time home of the water
After boiling water for a long time home, where the organic nitrogen will continue to be broken down into nitrite. In particular, the water is stored for too long, it is inevitable that bacterial contamination, this time to accelerate decomposition of organic nitrogen, nitrite generation are even greater. After drinking this water, nitrite, and hemoglobin, the operation will affect the blood and oxygen.
Therefore, in the thermos bottle several times in boiling water for many days of residual water on the stove boiling water for a long time, the ingredients have changed and not drinking. Should drink a boil, less than 24 hours of water.
In addition, bottles, drums of all kinds of pure water, mineral water should not be stored for too long. Large bottle of purified water or bottled mineral water more than three days should not be drinking.
3, saline
Some people think that light drinking salt water good for your health, so drink early morning light salt, this understanding is indeed wrong. Light salt water to drink is not conducive to healthy holiday, which added water after sweating for the summer is necessary, water can be added for the early morning is not only useless, or a health hazard mistake.
Physiological studies suggest that people are not sleeping through the night to drink water dripping, but breathing, perspiration, urinary is ongoing, the loss of many physical activities to consume water. The morning, blood has become concentrated state at this time if a certain amount of plain water to drink the blood can be diluted quickly to correct the night of hypertonic dehydration. Drink salt water will add to hypertonic dehydration, plus dry mouth is prepared. Moreover, the morning is the first human blood pressure peak, higher blood pressure and drinking salt water will endanger health.
4, beverages
The morning's first cup of water is best not to drink commercial fruit juice, cola, soft drinks, coffee, milk and other beverages. Soft drinks and cola and other carbonated drinks contain citric acid in the majority, in the metabolism will speed up the excretion of calcium, lower blood levels of calcium in long-term drinking can cause calcium deficiency. While other drinks are beneficial to urinary function, early in the morning to drink not only the body can not effectively supplement the lack of water, will increase the collective demands on the water, but water shortages caused by the body.
Juice, milk, coffee should not be the first drink as early in the morning, because these substances at this time the body can not provide the most need moisture, but also so that the body in the Let dry state of gastrointestinal digestion and absorption of work carried out is not conducive to good health.
Therefore, we should bear in mind for their own health over the four water is early morning wake up can not drink.
Today, the emphasis on people who drink more and more; but the real people who would drink, but a few. Do not pick the time to drink, do not care about the content to drink, do not use their brains to drink ... ... can only prove that you're just drinking, not necessarily to drink on the water. In the care of the body as a popular era, have been considered the easiest to drink water, but also had become a profound learning.
5, fasting replenishment most Stomach
Also supply water before eating it? It will dilute the gastric juices digest the impact is not it? Western has appetizer step, the reason is to use the soup to mobilize appetite, lubricate the esophagus, to prepare for the meal. So, before meals replenishment also have the same meaning, into the solid food before, start with a small drink half a cup (about 100 ml), which can be at room temperature for fruit juice, yogurt, can also be daisy rock sugar warm water or a touch of tea , or a small bowl of thick soup appetizer are good Stomach and the law.
6, drink plenty of water can not see
Some people seem not to drink water all day long, it is because the moisture from the food intake is sufficient to meet demand. Food is also water, such as rice, of which 60% water content, while the porridge it, is even more enriched water. Turn food tables not difficult to see fruit and vegetables more than 70% moisture content, even eating only 500 grams of vegetables a day can also be 300 to 400 milliliters of water (two pregnant Yo). Combined with attention to diet is dry with thin, so to get food from the three meals a day 1500 to 2000 ml of water is not difficult. Eat three meals a day as full advantage of the opportunity to supply water bar, select fruits and vegetables and not more than the soup salty porridge and moisturizing effects are good.
7, remember diuresis food
Food is so-called benefits of water can increase the excretion of body moisture foods such as watermelon, coffee, tea contains a diuretic ingredients, can promote the formation of kidney urine; have coarse grains, vegetables and fruits contain fiber, can be combined with large amounts of water in the intestine increase stool weight; hot and spicy ingredients can promote surface capillary dilation, people sweating, loss of surface water. Fill Ye Hao, Lee both mean water balance to the body means.
8, drink nothing to do with beauty
Physical lack of water, the skin will look dry and dull; too little water will also prone to dry, and even constipation, skin is easy with a minor acne. That said, just add water by the impact of color on the skin and only a limited, but now drink a lot of added vitamins play a beauty brand, such as a milk drinks which contain Vitamin B6, claiming their products "make delicate skin lubrication" , and now with this "beauty vitamin" drinks quite a bit. Orthodox nutrition monograph did not mention the role of its beauty, Fortunately, one does not intake more dangerous, the second can also prevent the occurrence of coronary heart disease, are also considered useful to sound right.
9, the water of the "beholder"
After boiling the tap water may contain chlorine has a high carcinogenic compounds, such as by placing a long time (overnight) the aging of the water quality will occur.
Now all kinds of home water treatment machines also have debut, the rage of the spa like pot, so that there is follow-up maintenance of equipment problems, like drinking, may be the source of secondary pollution of drinking water.
10, learning to drink sports drinks
Before and after strenuous exercise can not make up white water, we can not fill high concentration of fruit juice, sports drinks should be added. Sports drinks should contain a small amount of sugar, sodium, potassium, magnesium, calcium and a variety of water-soluble vitamins, to supplement the body movement and the required loss. White Water to drink will cause hemodilution, the quantity of perspiration surge, further aggravating dehydration. High concentration of sugar in the juice to make juice by a prolonged gastric emptying, resulting in movement of stomach discomfort. The specially designed sports drinks in the concentration of salts and sugar to avoid these adverse reactions. Sports drinks are also particular about the temperature, high heat is not conducive to lower the body temperature, too cold can cause gastrointestinal spasm, should generally be cool taste, temperature around 10.
11, guard against sour drinks
Drink more fruit juice for flavor agent citric acid, citric acid eating too much, suddenly a large number of organic acids enter the body when intake exceeds the body's processing capacity on the acid will make the body's PH value of imbalance, leading to acidosis generation, people tired, sleepy. Especially in the summer, hot weather, sweating more, the body will lose a lot of electrolytes such as potassium, sodium, chlorine and other basic components, a lot of sour drink more easily acidic body fluids. Therefore, in the summer should not add too much to drink sour drinks organic acids.
12, the trap of sweet drinks
If thirsty, when first thought was drink, but very dangerous. Coke, Sprite, Fanta's sugar content is 11% more than the watermelon, apples, oranges, etc. many kinds of fruit, a 350 ml of cola contains energy equivalent to a piece of bread, a corn or 250 grams of fruit. The sugar content of fruit juice to this very, or even go higher on it. Pulse, she / he looks like activation of vitamin water drinks also contain sugar 3%, if the drink a big bottle (600 ml it), on body weight is considerable. Indeed heard of someone as sweet drinks and diabetes Baoyin misfortune it.
13, light salt water harm
Light is equivalent to physiological saline concentration of salt, per 100 ml containing about 1 gram of salt, it has several uses in everyday life: First, after sweat loss supplement body water and sodium; 2, diarrhea after the supplementary loss of water from the gut and salt, to maintain electrolyte balance; 3, light salt water rinse to remove the mouth of bacteria and reduce inflammation caused by oropharyngeal swelling. However, cardiac function is not suitable for light salt water well, have high blood pressure who drink, especially in the morning peak when blood viscosity, light drinking salt water will increase dry mouth, and promote blood pressure.
14, see through "In the Mood" water
Pure water, by the addition of multiple filters to a variety of microbes, impurities and useful minerals, notably the safety of drinking, it is a soft water, many people believe that it is not enough nutrition, long-term adverse health drink, but this view was not confirmed.
Mineral water, is the kind of natural, mined from the deep strata, rich in rare minerals, slightly alkaline, it should be more conducive to health, but does not rule out the possibility of organic pollution.
Mineral water, pure water concentration ratio in accordance with the human body to add minerals concentrate prepared from artificial mineral water, drinking water technologies marks a new height.
15, love sports will also have to supply water
Sports replenishment to grasp the following principles:
a. can not be completed when thirsty. Because the thirsty, the loss of water has already reached 2% of body weight.
b. movement before, during and after the replenishment should be. 2 hours before exercise up 250-500 ml; 150-250 ml added immediately before exercise; movement every 15 to 20 minutes added 120-240 ml; exercise by exercise in weight loss, body weight decreased 1 kg each take up a l.
16, Qin replenishment unwise
When the body is in steady state, the normal daily supply water from 1000 to 2000 ml, so that urine can be a plenty to keep Qingliang. However, if consciously or unconsciously, a large number of drinking water, of which there is a problem. First, state your body may be in a dehydrated state, are in high-temperature environment, a lot of sweat or eat a lot of salt may be millions of the situation, then the replenishment is necessary; Secondly, if there is high blood sugar, pituitary, or renal dysfunction situation; or in flu and fever infectious disease; or a urinary tract inflammation, even in patients with a high serum uric acid, it can also take the initiative to a large number of drinking water. And a healthy person does not feel thirsty in the case of water more than 2000 ml / day is not necessary, and it was just repeated their kidney function tests Bale.
17, vitamin C drink drink useless
Drink a lot of new listings contain vitamin C, vitamin C benefits Needless to say, in order to prevent a lack of daily human to add 60 to 100 mg. "Queer" the vitamin C content of 3 to 30 mg / 100 ml, "Pulse" for 25 to 50 mg / 100 ml, "she" is 15 mg / 100 ml, that is, drinking a bottle of such drinks Vitamin C can be obtained to meet the daily requirements .
So, if you drink 2 bottles, 3 bottles, or even more? Vitamin C will not occur poisoning cases? Fortunately, the safety of a wide range of vitamin C, but do not think it was more the better, and excessive intake can lead to urinary tract stones, diarrhea, and permeability of high-dose vitamin C dependency.